2 of my girlies went on the track recently; 2 different stories, 2 opposing reactions, yet the same and only ending. 1 of them, i probably would have done the same too if i was in her shoe. the other, guess it came too sudden, too absurd, and a little ridiculous in some sort. honestly, i dont know the full story nor what happened but you've been crying, so i guess you were hurt and quite badly. major hugs.
im no relationship guru. i had, have, and still having my fair share of conflicts, arguments, tears and anything else negative you can think of. however, i really feel that it's not about right or wrong in any cases of a relationship gone sour or such yeah. even to the extent of having an affair, the only wrong that we can firmly tag onto him/her is this person has been and done morally wrong, that's it. was it wrong for the above to like someone else in the end? i personally dont believe it. if it's the case of personality & compatibility issues, then let's just face it cos he/she is not who each other want to be with and move on.
when you feel that someone has let you down, always ask yourself, was it a shared goal between the 2 of you or was it a shared goal that you hope the 2 of you will and are going to share? makes a hell lot of difference yah.
and who has the rights to interfere with one's priorities in life? who are we to judge each other's meaning of their own life and perceptions? no matter how close a couple is, how related 2 individuals are eg. father and son, still, i've learnt a lot about personal space and dreams. it's all about striking a balance isnt it?
sidetrack a lil', quoting a paragraph from somewhere which i've read:
"do you really know what is love? do you really know what's loving with all your heart? don't belittle our love, just because you can get over a relationship easily, juz because you can fall in love easily once again. I PITY YOU."
hmmm, these sentences kinda stunned me a bit. please, do not question one's ability to love or the meaning of their love! it tends to make one look childish because of the existence of this very word called perceptions.
love to one can be giving him/her everything they want - material needs. love to the other can be that he/she is always there physically - physical touch. and some others can see love as spending quality time together. see, perceptions. yes, you feel and think that your way of loving is the way but honestly, not everybody feels the same as you. dont believe? ask around! bear in mind again, your map is not his/her territory yeah and neither is his map yours.
nobody is going to belittle your love because it's YOUR way. and honestly, i think it's good that one can get over a relationship easily. 拿得起， 放得下; isnt this going to make your life and others (especially your family) easier? and what's up with the pity? seriously, do you think the other party care? why be so hard on yourself?
definitely, i dont get it cos we have different perceptions.
alright, i feel like a nag.
of cos, im not in my girlie's shoes. but i believe what matters most is how she is going to live her life from this moment on. babe, you might take 1 week, 1 month or even longer but hey! life is still good, look at the positive and pretty side of your everyday. you still have your beloved & cutee parents, your goldies, your sisters, the gang and the babes!
nevertheless, this is for you...
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop.
treat yourself extremely well, im sure you can do better than that! =)
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