my thoughts and for u, babe.

if you guys havent yet realized, there's always a season for everything... to name a few, you have the season to fall sick, for marriages (dec 2007 was a super hot month, so was may 2008), childbirths (a lot of babies showers this month as well), and of course the not so good one, breakups. and i supposed this year, it came earlier than the usual aug-sept period. alright, opinionated statements in the house.

2 of my girlies went on the track recently; 2 different stories, 2 opposing reactions, yet the same and only ending. 1 of them, i probably would have done the same too if i was in her shoe. the other, guess it came too sudden, too absurd, and a little ridiculous in some sort. honestly, i dont know the full story nor what happened but you've been crying, so i guess you were hurt and quite badly. major hugs.

im no relationship guru. i had, have, and still having my fair share of conflicts, arguments, tears and anything else negative you can think of. however, i really feel that it's not about right or wrong in any cases of a relationship gone sour or such yeah. even to the extent of having an affair, the only wrong that we can firmly tag onto him/her is this person has been and done morally wrong, that's it. was it wrong for the above to like someone else in the end? i personally dont believe it. if it's the case of personality & compatibility issues, then let's just face it cos he/she is not who each other want to be with and move on.

when you feel that someone has let you down, always ask yourself, was it a shared goal between the 2 of you or was it a shared goal that you hope the 2 of you will and are going to share? makes a hell lot of difference yah.

and who has the rights to interfere with one's priorities in life? who are we to judge each other's meaning of their own life and perceptions? no matter how close a couple is, how related 2 individuals are eg. father and son, still, i've learnt a lot about personal space and dreams. it's all about striking a balance isnt it?

sidetrack a lil', quoting a paragraph from somewhere which i've read:
"do you really know what is love? do you really know what's loving with all your heart? don't belittle our love, just because you can get over a relationship easily, juz because you can fall in love easily once again. I PITY YOU."

hmmm, these sentences kinda stunned me a bit. please, do not question one's ability to love or the meaning of their love! it tends to make one look childish because of the existence of this very word called perceptions.

love to one can be giving him/her everything they want - material needs. love to the other can be that he/she is always there physically - physical touch. and some others can see love as spending quality time together. see, perceptions. yes, you feel and think that your way of loving is the way but honestly, not everybody feels the same as you. dont believe? ask around! bear in mind again, your map is not his/her territory yeah and neither is his map yours.

nobody is going to belittle your love because it's YOUR way. and honestly, i think it's good that one can get over a relationship easily. 拿得起， 放得下; isnt this going to make your life and others (especially your family) easier? and what's up with the pity? seriously, do you think the other party care? why be so hard on yourself?

definitely, i dont get it cos we have different perceptions.

alright, i feel like a nag.

of cos, im not in my girlie's shoes. but i believe what matters most is how she is going to live her life from this moment on. babe, you might take 1 week, 1 month or even longer but hey! life is still good, look at the positive and pretty side of your everyday. you still have your beloved & cutee parents, your goldies, your sisters, the gang and the babes!

nevertheless, this is for you...

Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop.

treat yourself extremely well, im sure you can do better than that! =)

new publicity stunt.

was alighting the bus at the stop across my office and i spotted this.

interesting, there's supposed to be a mobile number at the area which i have mosaic. yes i have to do it as i didnt want trouble with the law for posting this picture, there's for our rules & regulation, law and order. but what the hell is this poster supposed to mean? i guess it goes like this "need money? call me now!" tsk tsk, it's amazing how people come up with stunts like the above. i wonder if the poster is a legal act in the first place? ...

nevertheless, i thought it's something new. the last time i was impressed by such acts was the "O $$ P $$' saga, it means owe money pay money. so much for evolution huh.

learnt a new skill just last night, photostitching! =) the gang had a sports day just 1 month ago at jurong west sports stadium and we played badminton! it's all bout healthy living! just two pictures to present my new-found skills. going to play with photoscaping next up!

silence is golden...

sometimes, it's better to not say than to have said things that one will regret later.
sometimes, you see things happening and not within our control, we're left with little choices but to move on.
sometimes, we go one big round and realize that everything is a dream.

i see friends leaving one by one, i see no longer the familiar environment i once knew and liked.
that's the after-thoughts of a severely disturbed-&-pms yours truly.

here's a sad yet meaningful song that i personally like; removed the lyrics of the chorus just to lighten the mood a lil' bit.

'No need to argue' - the cranberries

There's no need to argue anymore.
I gave all I could, but it left me so sore.
And the thing that makes me mad,

And I remember all the things we once shared,
Watching T.V. movies on the living room armchair.
But they say it will work out fine.
Was it all a waste of time.

Will I forget in time, ah, You said I was on your mind?
There's no need to argue, No need to argue anymore.
There's no need to argue anymore.

remaining silence may seem weak, but looking back, it might seem quite a smart move afterall.

have been busy with work the first 2 weeks of june, down for the past 1 week and picking myself up again. im longing for a holiday and on impulse, i nearly caught a movie all by myself. and now, here i am in one of my favourite place for a good relaxation. still a bit of ripples here and there, but im near to feeling at peace with myself once again.

i pledge myself to blog only the positive and happy stuffs but i just cant help it sometimes; this space of mine just seems too tempting an avenue to vent my frustrations.

and to compensate on my derailing emotions, i shall tell the truth of my dental health. my tooth filling for years has just dropped off while i was chewing some gum during a meeting yesterday. since i am no ironman nor any superheros, i cant seem to reason that i can produce metal. so drey and chang, there you go, it's really my tooth filling.

off right? haha, till the next post then! =)

Atonement for my sins

first up, the sins. yes, went lunar with the gang again on fri night and it was the usual stuff, i.e. chivas, beer, and bak ku teh. pictures pictures pictures!

evidence that yc is kinda gone...




the aftermath.

saturday, to me, was a blur cos i woke up at an unearthly hour - 730am when i slept at 5am. wtf. of course, i went back to sleep again but a disrupted sleep is never satisfying. i didnt know how i survived my saturday through the appts and all but guess everything turned out well eventually. what's worth mentioning here is dinner with the roommate at vivo. we found this new eating joint that serves fantastic yummilicious italian foodie! modesto's, right at level 1!

food was really great, in fact the best pastas and pizzas we have eaten thus far. they claim to be traditional bout their style of cooking and because we believe, hence, they're good. 4.5 thumbs-up!!! we ordered the ham and cheese pizza with artichokes and a single portion of the speciality seafood pasta, both tasted heavenly. and the best thing for guys is that their portions are quite big, both emotionally and physically satisfied!

sunday was atonement. and the roommate and i continued our henderson waves journey II. this time round, i drove us up to telok blangah hill; we started with alexandra arc and it's all the way to the canopy walk. didnt manage to go all the way to kent ridge and west coast as poor oreo and her tiny paws were red from all the walking.

the journey...kickstarted with us sighting a big group of kids running some focus camp of sorts and they were playing games in the park. see my new minnie mouse face towel, simply adore it. haha, so cute. and check out oreo's new bone-bone harness, costs us 30+ bucks. the verdict: it's pretty expensive to have pets in singapore. tsk, my minnie costs only $5.90 for 2 pcs @ watson.

and you kn0w what's the best thing bout singapore? it's difficult to get lost with all the signages, haha.

and we are always so into learning...in this case, learning more bout the nature and botanicals...

the walk through the alexandra arch. it's quite a long stretch of metal grillings and it is a downslope, so was really easy to walk through. ha. anyway, the second part of the bridge after preston road is still under a bit of construction for the structure. the path is alright though, just that we saw construction workers working on the supports below the bridge.

if you feel you're not into walking/hiking of any sorts, at least get down to hort park directly and explore it as well as the floral walk, it's beautiful there.

a glass house! =)




at the canopy walk!






alright, pictures overdosed. till the next time! =)